They laughed when I shared my goal.
One guy even rolled his eyes.
Yesterday, I took a workshop on setting goals for entrepreneurs.
After learning the model, we were sent to breakout rooms to share our goals.
In my small group, everyone had worked on a financial goal – except me.
When I shared that I wanted to be a pop star diva, the group laughed. One guy even rolled his eyes.
A woman asked if I wanted to sing for them – as if to prove my worth.
I declined, sharing that I am currently an awful singer.
Their reaction of laughing and eye-rolling intensified.
Rather than ask me to explain what the heck I was talking about with my pop star diva concept, they simply moved on to the next person – to share another “normal” financial goal.
I could have demanded their attention back to justify my goal and worth, but why bother?
I was raised as a Good Girl – a selfless servant who is responsible for everyone’s emotions.
- What I thought, felt, and desired was irrelevant – especially when there were others to still serve.
- To ask for what I wanted required great justification.
I don’t play that game anymore.
And I don’t care when I make others feel uncomfortable by being true to myself.
My people will get me, delight in my plans – and cheer me on.
They were obviously not my people. NEXT!
Do you feel like you have to justify what makes you happy?
