As part of attending Trivia Night, our team meets early for dinner.
- We catch up before starting the game.
- And get to know any guests joining us for the first time.
- (Helps us be more strategic in how we weigh their answers for trivia!)
Last week, one of our friends brought a guest – I’ll call her Carrie.
- As Carrie approached the table, she excitedly shared that she eats the way I eat.
- It was an interesting way to say ‘Hello” to a stranger.
- (Attempted insta-bonding for two points???)
Once settled in at the table, Carrie shared how well she did on her program.
- She had lost 22 pounds!
- She was feeling better.
- She was glad I ate in a similar way.
One of our team’s traditions is to order tater tots as an appetizer for the table.
- They cook them to perfection.
- Smell amazing.
- And everyone scarfs them down – except me as a general rule.
The tater tots arrived at the table.
Carrie looked at me and asked if I was going to break my normal eating habits to join her for tater tots.
What the heck!?
- I just met this woman.
- She knows very little about me – like why eat the way I do.
- And asked me to change my norms to join her in cheating on her eating plan.
When I said “NO” she deflated a bit.
As if she would feel guilty eating them if I didn’t.
I looked straight at her, “Carrie, I could care less what you eat. You do you.”
- She confesssed she cheats regularly.
- She isn’t really that strict about how she eats – and still lost weight.
- I told her again, “It’s all good. You do what feels good to you.”
The tater tots were perfection that night.
- She obviously wanted to dig in like everyone else.
- But she gave me a hang-dog look as she just took a few from the serving dish.
- She still wanted me to join her in the decadence.
If I were a Good Girl, I would have joined her so she would feel good about what she was eating.
BUT, it wasn’t what I wanted to do.
So I basically ignored her for the next several minutes.
Makes me think of successful women raised as Good Girls… how often do you say YES when you want to say NO?
