OMG! I was a total idiot in front of the most dreamy guy.
- My brain hijacked my mouth – and no words would come out! UGH!
- Talk about being awkward at conversations!
When I was in high school, I overanalyzed practically every word that came from my mouth.
- I would obsess about trying to find the perfect response when asked a question.
- It sucked.
One of my peak high school experiences was attending the visitation for an advisor for a group I belonged to.
I adored her – and her death rocked me to the core.
I met up at the funeral home with some of the other members of the group – including Bob, who was a year older than me and the dreamiest guy.
He stood next to me (nerves activated!!!) and asked ME a question!
My mind ran through umpteen possible responses searching for the best thing I could say that might make Bob think I was, well, dateable.
(I wouldn’t be surprised to hear I had steam coming from my ears from thinking so hard!)
My brain kept spinning – and no words would come out of my mouth. (UGH!)
Bob was kind as well as dreamy.
- When I didn’t respond like a normal person, he patted my shoulder, saying, “It’s okay. We all miss her.”
- He was consoling me about the death of our advisor!
- AND that was the end of my moment to impress Bob.
Unfortunately, this was not the first or last time that I spoke in delay – if at all.
- When I went to college, I decided to figure out this conversation stuff.
- And I did.
For the last 20 years, I’ve been teaching people how to build relationships with confidence as leaders in their associations, at work – and, even in love!
My Magnetic Relationships Mini-Workshops are 30-minutes of typical, Cynthia-style, fun hands-on practice focused on a single networking micro skill.
Networking is painful when you don’t know how to do it – and, I’ve got your back.
Here are some upcoming mini-workshops:
- Oct. 7 – Be Intriguing – Without Oversharing or Sounding Desperate
- Oct. 14 – Got Follow-Up Fears? Let’s Make it LESS Scary!
- Oct. 21 – Ummm… What Was I Saying?
- Oct. 28 – Magnetic Improv – Get Out of Your Head and Into the Moment!
What about Bob?
We were casual acquaintances until he graduated from high school. I never saw him after that.
It’s okay… A few years later, I married a real dreamboat of a man – and we can talk together for hours!
Makes me think of people who HATE networking but still have to do it…how do you shift gears when you lose your words?